222 Views

13 Steps To Help You Bounce Back From Betrayal

 

We suffer quietly through disloyalty from a partner, friend, or family member, but this embeds harmful emotions deeply into our being. Our trust in others erodes if we don’t process the reality of betrayal and work through its painful impressions. And who hasn’t been betrayed? After one partner is unfaithful, we just can’t imagine our next love interest remaining loyal. If our best friend deceives us, we begin to realise that all friends are capable of this sinister act. In this way, we program our minds to believe that betrayal is something we’ll just have to learn to live with.

But, infidelity of any kind can bring about wisdom and invaluable lessons to be learned. And we can take action to cleanse our spirit of the grim past and, in a sense, betray our own betrayal.

Betrayal leaves us at a fork in the road. We can choose to act in ways that either favour or impede personal growth: we can become stuck in a bad moment forever or we can put it behind us for good. We decide our path.

Act on my 13 steps to recover faith after betrayal…

1. Erase the imprints of betrayal

The wounds of betrayal can be so submerged in our subconscious mind that they might be difficult to extract. Meditation can help to reach the root of former deception and jump-start the healing process. I recommend quietly meditating for a few minutes each day, digging into the contents of your brain and wiping out old memories or thought patterns that keep you stagnant.

2. Forgive

Forgiving does not mean accepting the wrong behaviour of others; it means detaching from the accompanying pain, frustration and bitterness buried within. Forgiveness breaks us free like a ship dislodging from a dock; life is our open sea when we pardon the past. But as long as we harbour hatred or anger against others, personal progress is stifled.

Strive to forgive one person a day.

3. Throw betrayal away

I mean, literally throw it away! Try this exercise: write down on a piece of paper your worst case of betrayal. Capture the emotions, describe the terrible moment, and highlight the magnitude of the event. Get it out of your system, no matter how long ago it occurred. Then, fold this paper and get rid of it in a dramatic way. You can toss it into a dumpster, throw it into the ocean, burn it (in a safe way) or tear it into tiny bits and flush it down the toilet. I’m not encouraging you to litter the streets with letters of betrayal (or clog your plumbing), but I do want you to eliminate any traumatic traces by disposing of an object that holds your darkest emotions.

4. Rebuild faith slowly

Your faith wasn’t damaged in one day, so it can’t be rebuilt in such a short time. Like a puzzle, you have to start piecing your faith back slowly. At first, you might find it hard to trust anyone, but slowly and surely you’ll re-develop a sense of confidence in the good will of others. All you have to do is be willing to re-discover faith.

5. Find others who have faith

You’re not the only one who’s been betrayed, and you’re certainly not the only one who wants to regain faith in others. There are many wonderful, honest people who want to earn your trust. Surround yourself with a positive group of people on the same faithful path as you.

6. Regain faith in yourself

The first person you have to trust is yourself. Develop a deep, unbreakable bond with your outstanding abilities and your own self-vows. Make a new promise to yourself each month. Keep that promise and take small, daily steps until it becomes habit. Because if you can’t trust yourself, who can you trust?

SEE MORE : www.all4woman.co.za

7. Detach yourself from people you don’t trust

There’s no reason to put up with people who act in bad faith. If you feel someone is not trustworthy, you don’t need them in your life. Be selective about the people you bring in for your own well-being. Choosing to cling to people who don’t inspire faith will only lead you to distrust everyone as a whole. Walk away from those you know are not right for you.

ALSO READ  How To Make Quality Red Velvet Cake

8. Don’t betray

Remember the phrase, ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you’? Never forget it! Whether you’ve been betrayed or not, don’t resort to betraying another. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, simply move on. But do not knowingly deceive or mislead someone else to satisfy your ego. Revenge only perpetuates bad karma and traps you in a cycle of recurring action.

9. Envision a future free of betrayal

It’s okay to daydream. Being able to visualize an ideal future despite current drawbacks is one of the most beautiful elements of life. Imagine each day that no one will ever hurt you again. The images you create in your mind become projections of reality in the future, so be careful of the thoughts you send out into the universe.

What you fear most, you most attract, and if you quiet your fears, you can control what you draw in. Instead, the peaceful, harmonious thoughts you choose to portray in your mind will manifest into your reality.

10. Control your emotions

Your emotions can be your best friend or your worst enemy…

Emotions are the essence of our existence, but when they’re taken to the extreme, they can downright block our lives. We can easily become stuck in our feelings, mentally and even physically. When we’re depressed, we have trouble going about our daily routines or we overeat to try and steady our feelings.

In order to heal from betrayal and keep it from recurring in the future, you have to keep your emotions in check. If you obsess over something that happened in the past, you become stuck in that moment in time. But if you can think logically and understand the need to move forward, you can indeed master your emotions.

11. Take a leap of faith

Make a decision based on pure faith. Don’t over-analyse or think too much. Follow the voice of your intuition; this can mean leaving a job you feel isn’t right for you, moving to a new home if your gut keeps telling you to relocate, or even separating from your partner if you just know the relationship is wrong.

You will see that acting on faith rather than fear fosters better decisions.

12. Trust two people unconditionally

While you should always be rational in your level of trust towards others, pick two people to trust without limits. They can be family members, your spouse, friends – any two people you know would never harm you in any way. Putting your hopes in your loved ones teaches you that yes, there still exist goodhearted folks you can confide in.

13. Reaffirm your faith each day

Every morning when you wake up, speak an affirmation to yourself in a loud voice. Affirm your strong faith in others, in yourself, and in your future. Waking up with a faithful phrase each day will wipe away the lingering doubts in your mind. Here are some faith-inducing affirmations to try:

I trust the people in my life fully; I have faith that they act with respect and genuine intentions towards me.

My future holds unlimited potential; I trust that my loved ones will help me achieve my potential.

I work well with others to set goals and reach accomplishments together.

I am free from the wrongdoings of others; I am unaffected by their behaviour.

I trust in the good will of others and I know that kindness will prevail.

A painstaking experience, betrayal is felt by all in time. But whether we remain trapped in the emotions of betrayal or we break through its barriers becomes our choice. Implement my 13 actions above to wipe away the negative effects of a former infidelity and restore your faith in both others and yourself.

Get the best viral stories straight into your inbox!

Don't worry, we don't spam

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

Latest Posts

Wizkid Advises Davido Against Twitter Fight – “Forget Them OBO”
Entertainment
32 views
Entertainment
32 views

Wizkid Advises Davido Against Twitter Fight – “Forget Them OBO”

MT - February 23, 2018

The Wizkid– Davido friendship that shocked the entire country at the tail end of last year, has become a bond so strong that it recently passed a…

Lovely Birthday Photos Of Comedian Woli Arole
Entertainment
40 views
Entertainment
40 views

Lovely Birthday Photos Of Comedian Woli Arole

MT - February 23, 2018

  Woli Arole, real name Oluwatoyin Bayegun is a comedian that became popular through his skits on Instagram, fast forward years later and he has added actor,…

7 Fascinating Facts You Need To Know About Former Mr. Nigeria And Actor, Kenneth Okolie
Entertainment
35 views
Entertainment
35 views

7 Fascinating Facts You Need To Know About Former Mr. Nigeria And Actor, Kenneth Okolie

MT - February 23, 2018

  Kenneth Okolie came to limelight when he won the first Mr. Nigeria title in 2010. He followed this by moving to Nollywood industry and now he…

Meet The Proud Chelsea Fan Who Gave Birth To Twins During Champions League Match (Photos)
Inspiring
30 views
Inspiring
30 views

Meet The Proud Chelsea Fan Who Gave Birth To Twins During Champions League Match (Photos)

MT - February 23, 2018

A proud Nigerian mother identified as James Juliet has dedicated her new born twins to Chelsea Football Club. According to the new mother who was pregnant for…

‘Why Tithing Is Not Compulsory And Shouldn’t Be Compelled To Pay’ – Pastor Tunde Bakare
Religion
34 views
Religion
34 views

‘Why Tithing Is Not Compulsory And Shouldn’t Be Compelled To Pay’ – Pastor Tunde Bakare

MT - February 23, 2018

While speaking in an interview with BBC, Nigerian Prophetic-Apostolic pastor, and the founder of Latter Rain Assembly in Lagos, Pastor Tunde Bakare in on the controversial debate of "Tithing" and…

Ferrari Unveils Photos Of 488 Pista Ahead Of 2018 Geneva Motor Show [Photos]
Technology
33 views
Technology
33 views

Ferrari Unveils Photos Of 488 Pista Ahead Of 2018 Geneva Motor Show [Photos]

MT - February 23, 2018

  The rightful successor to Ferrari’s V8 special series, the ‘488 Pista,’ is to be unveiled at the 2018 Geneva motor show. Based on the translation of…

Unbelievable: Meet The Nigerian Author Of 5 Books Who Reportedly Sells ‘Zobo Drink’ On The Streets (Photos)
Inspiring
40 views
Inspiring
40 views

Unbelievable: Meet The Nigerian Author Of 5 Books Who Reportedly Sells ‘Zobo Drink’ On The Streets (Photos)

MT - February 23, 2018

If the report by Premium Times is anything to go by, then one could say it's really a mixed reactions scenario for this young man. The report…

Meet The Top 5 Richest People In Nigeria
Profiles
29 views
Profiles
29 views

Meet The Top 5 Richest People In Nigeria

PH - February 23, 2018

Nigeria is home to numerous well off people. Amazingly, the wealthiest man in Africa is a Nigerian while the second wealthiest African lady is additionally a Nigerian.…

In Photos: Moment Olu Of Warri Kingdom, His Majesty Ogiame Ikenwole Visited Buhari In Aso Villa
Art, History and Culture
34 views
Art, History and Culture
34 views

In Photos: Moment Olu Of Warri Kingdom, His Majesty Ogiame Ikenwole Visited Buhari In Aso Villa

MT - February 23, 2018

The Olu of Warri Kingdom, His Majesty Ogiame Ikenwole leading members of his cabinet to the Presidential Villa for a meeting with President Muhammadu on Friday. (c)…

Highlights On The Most Richest Musicians In Nigeria…. You’ll Be Surprised!
Entertainment
36 views
Entertainment
36 views

Highlights On The Most Richest Musicians In Nigeria…. You’ll Be Surprised!

PH - February 23, 2018

They are one of the very important people in the country. the money circulating in the Nigerian music industry is a very enviable sum. Asides the showbiz-life,…

10 Ways To Fall In Love With Your Partner All Over Again
Romance and Love
41 views
Romance and Love
41 views

10 Ways To Fall In Love With Your Partner All Over Again

PH - February 23, 2018

Even if you and your SO are still very much in love, there are always ways to make that flame burn even stronger. Certain things just remind…

How Federal Government Spent N65 Million on Website
Politics
40 views
Politics
40 views

How Federal Government Spent N65 Million on Website

PH - February 23, 2018

The Office of the Secretary of the Government of the Federation, OSGF, has explained how N65 million was spent on a website. A review of the 2017…

Little Boy Who Photobombed A Viral Wedding Photo Lands Endorsement Deal
Entertainment
58 views
Entertainment
58 views

Little Boy Who Photobombed A Viral Wedding Photo Lands Endorsement Deal

PH - February 23, 2018

Oluwatobiloba Michael Falana, the cute little boy that photobombed the viral wedding photo last year is now a brand ambassador for Qtaby events, a talent and event…

Tips On How You Can Reduce That Pesky Belly Fat
Food and Health
47 views
Food and Health
47 views

Tips On How You Can Reduce That Pesky Belly Fat

PH - February 23, 2018

Getting rid of belly fat is not only for making your clothes fitted and smart, it is much more than that. Fat in the belly area is…

How Woman Allegedly Forged Police AIG’s Letter To Get 33,000 Litres Of Fuel
Shocking
44 views
Shocking
44 views

How Woman Allegedly Forged Police AIG’s Letter To Get 33,000 Litres Of Fuel

MT - February 23, 2018

 a 47-year-old woman identified as Jero Nwoze appeared before an Igbosere Magistrate’s Court in Lagos, yesterday, over alleged forgery of a letter purportedly written by an Assistant Inspector General…

LIST: Here Are 6 Yummy Yoruba Delicacies That Are Worth Trying (With Picture)
Best of Nigeria
44 views
Best of Nigeria
44 views

LIST: Here Are 6 Yummy Yoruba Delicacies That Are Worth Trying (With Picture)

MT - February 23, 2018

The best way to most people’s heart is via good food and entertainment. This is one thing the Yoruba tribe are very good at doing. Yorubas have…

Viral Photos: Pregnant Woman Takes Her Maternity Shoot To Another Level With Hubby
Romance and Love
52 views
Romance and Love
52 views

Viral Photos: Pregnant Woman Takes Her Maternity Shoot To Another Level With Hubby

MT - February 23, 2018

Check out these artistic maternity photos that has got people talking for obvious reasons. the pictures have since gone viral since their release on social media. In…

Fela Durotoye Speaks On 2019 Election
Politics
73 views
Politics
73 views

Fela Durotoye Speaks On 2019 Election

PH - February 22, 2018

Fela Durotoye, a consulting guru, leadership coach and public speaker, says he will be running for president, come 2019. The 46-year-old declared his intentions on Thursday, adding…

Loading...