Here are 15 important things you should know about orgasms. Everything you’ve ever wanted to know about your big O: namely, how to have one—or your best one yet
1. THERE’S MORE THAN ONE WAY TO HAVE A HAPPY ENDING
Clitoral orgasms may be the best-known way to cross the finish line, but they’re certainly not your only option. You can also have a vaginal orgasm, a blended orgasm, or multiple orgasms. Try them all.
2. NIPPLEGASMS ARE REAL
Giving the girls some love could give you a seriously awesome orgasm—no other stimulation required. Find out how to have a nipplegasm.
3. FOREPLAY ISN’T OPTIONAL AS FAR AS YOUR ORGASM IS CONCERNED
The more kissing and caressing you do, the more your blood flow increases, which makes you extra-sensitive. It takes 10-20 minutes of stimulation for the average woman to reach her peak—which should be just enough time to try all of these 4 ultra-hot foreplay moves.
4. THE AVERAGE ORGASM IS 20 SECONDS LONG
During that 20 seconds, you have rhythmic contractions about every 0.08 seconds—and you can make those contractions stronger by doing Kegel exercises off-the-clock.
5. EXERCISING CAN GET YOU OFF
Kegels aren’t the only exercise that can deliver toe-curling results: Certain abs moves can give you what’s known as a “coregasm.”
6. YOU CAN ORGASM DURING CHILDBIRTH
File this under odd-but-true: Labor can actually jump-start an orgasm. (We’re guessing this makes for a supremely awkward delivery room.) Learn more about the world’s weirdest orgasms.
7. YOU CAN THINK YOUR WAY TO A HAPPY ENDING
In other weird orgasm news, it’s possible to mentally induce an orgasm. “It’s a combination of breathing, fantasy, and giving yourself permission to focus on yourself,” says sex therapist Gina Ogden, Ph.D.
8. MAKING NOISE MAKES YOUR ORGASM BETTER
Turns out, controlling the volume on your sex sounds could be the key to an awesome O. In tantric sex, making high-pitched noises brings sexual energy to your chest, throat, and head, while low-pitched noises bring them down to… well, down there. Switch up your sounds for a full-body orgasm.
9. MOST WOMEN HAVE FAKED IT
Studies show that 60 percent of women have given an Oscar-worthy performance in bed (but 59 percent of guys think they can spot a faker, interestingly). Find out why you should never fake an orgasm again.
10. COUPLED-UP WOMEN HAVE MORE ORGASMS
Women in relationships tend to climax a higher percentage of the time during sex than women who are just hooking up, according to research. Don’t let the “orgasm gap” hold you back. Find out why you’re not finishing—and how to get through your roadblock to have the best sex ever.
11. ANXIETY CAN KEEP YOU FROM CROSSING THE FINISH LINE
Super-stressed women have lower levels of physical arousal than women with normal stress levels, according to research. These six tips will help you have great sex—even when you’re on-edge.
12. BUMMER ALERT: SOME WOMEN ACTUALLY CAN’T ORGASM
An estimated 10-15 percent of women are anorgasmic, meaning they’re physically unable to cross the finish line. Think you might be one of them? Don’t give up just yet! First, see if one of these five orgasm obstacles could be getting in your way.
13. SOME POSITIONS ARE MORE ORGASM-FRIENDLY THAN OTHERS
Doggie-style is one of the best O-inducing positions for women. Why? It stimulates the G-spot (an ultra-sensitive spot on the inside of your vaginal wall) and your clitoris. Check out more sex positions that maximize your odds of having an orgasm.
14. ORGASMS MAKE YOU A CHATTY CATHY
Ever wonder why you find yourself opening up after a roll in the hay? Blame oxytocin, a chemical that your brain releases post-climax. Learn more about orgasm-induced chatter (and when you should keep your mouth shut).
15. ORGASMS GET BETTER WITH AGE
Women ages 80 to 99 are more sexually satisfied than younger women, according to a study in The American Journal of Medicine. Check out who else has the best sex.