59 Views

3 Essential Things You MUST Do Before Telling Him ‘I Love You’

SO important.

For several weeks I had been debating doing the one thing that takes any new relationship to the next level: saying “I love you.”

I can’t remember exactly when the thought first crossed my mind to say those words to my current boyfriend. However, I noticed that whenever I saw him after being apart for several days, or after he did something incredibly sweet or supportive, the words would almost pour out of me. I feared that one day I would accidentally say it, surprising both myself and him.

The whole process of saying “I love you” was a bit different in this relationship; in my past relationships, the guy dropped the L-bomb shortly after I began thinking about saying it. I never found myself caught up in this inner debate with myself as to when to say “I love you.” The guys were always the bold and vulnerable ones, and I just followed their lead.

This time, though, I found myself waiting and waiting and waiting … but he would never say it. As a result, I found myself doing the silly thing that most young people do nowadays when they’re bound by fear at the thought of saying those three words: I went to Google for advice.

I read article after article with all kinds of theories and ideas on the topic. And all these articles did one thing for me: It was keeping me in a state of fear. This fear of him not reciprocating was keeping my heart closed and preventing me from speaking my truth, and allowing myself and the relationship to move forward.

So what should we do when we find ourselves caught up in fear of being vulnerable? How can we clear out the fear so we can truly know it’s the right time to say “I love you”?

  1. Take some time to be still and breathe.

When we get all caught up in the fear of being vulnerable, the mind can overact. When the mind is in overdrive, it can be hard to tap into what we feel in our heart. So take some time for a day or several days to meditate for 15 minutes.

ALSO READ  Guys Beware! These Are Top 7 Lies that Women Often Tell Their Men to Deceive Them

Focus on the breath and allow yourself to become calm hearing the nature sounds or meditative music. If sitting still doesn’t quite work for you, then it can also be beneficial to go for a walk or do some kind of exercise. Getting into your body by doing some kind of movement can help calm the mind down so you can really know what your heart and intuition is guiding you to do.

  1. Realize that it isn’t the end of the world if your love isn’t reciprocated.

Who doesn’t like to hear that someone loves them? Chances are that whether it’s reciprocated or not, your partner is still going to feel flattered. And yes, if the other person doesn’t reciprocate, it’s going to suck for a while. But it isn’t the end of the world.

Yes, it hurts and will for a while, but it doesn’t mean you won’t survive it. You’ll get through it. It may not always create the most comfortable situation, but by expressing your true feelings, it opens the door for more opportunity and personal growth to happen — both for yourself and the other person.

  1. Learn to follow your heart.

Ultimately, at the end of the day, only one thing truly matters: The truth of your heart that wishes to be expressed. If you can truly feel it in your heart that you love the person, then say it. Life is too short to live bounded by fear. People deserve to know that they’re loved, appreciated, respected, and supported — whether they’re receptive to it or not.

source: your tango

Get the best viral stories straight into your inbox!

Don't worry, we don't spam

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

Latest Posts

Simidele Adeagbo Could Become Africa’s First Woman Skeleton Athlete At The 2018 Winter Olympics
Best of Nigeria
35 views
Best of Nigeria
35 views

Simidele Adeagbo Could Become Africa’s First Woman Skeleton Athlete At The 2018 Winter Olympics

PH - December 18, 2017

Just like the bobsled team, Simidele Adeagbo will be making history as the first African woman representing Nigeria as a Skeleton Athlete at the 2018 Winter Games…

Here Are The 10 Women Who Won At The 12th Edition Of The Future Awards
Best of Nigeria
33 views
Best of Nigeria
33 views

Here Are The 10 Women Who Won At The 12th Edition Of The Future Awards

PH - December 18, 2017

The 12th edition of The Future Awards 2017 held on December 9th, 2017 and it witnessed 10 wins from women out of 21 categories. With the mandate…

Mercy Makinde Talks About The Culture Of Domestic Violence In Nigeria
Nigerian Women
36 views
Nigerian Women
36 views

Mercy Makinde Talks About The Culture Of Domestic Violence In Nigeria

PH - December 18, 2017

Survivor and now an advocate, Mercy Makinde talks about the culture of domestic violence in Nigeria and how women are constantly attacked as the cause. Acknowledging that…

How Insurance Can Save Your Life
How Tos
37 views
How Tos
37 views

How Insurance Can Save Your Life

PH - December 18, 2017

Have you ever thought about what would happen if you were unable to work due to injury or sickness? Imagine what your family’s life would be like…

Former Arsenal Player, Thierry Henry, Crowned ‘Igwe of Football’ in Lagos
Featured
51 views
Featured
51 views

Former Arsenal Player, Thierry Henry, Crowned ‘Igwe of Football’ in Lagos

PH - December 18, 2017

Former Arsenal and France international striker Thierry Henry who is in Lagos for the Guinness Made of Black programme has been crowned the, Igwe of football’ in Nigeria.…

Super Falcons End 2017 As Africa’s Best Women Team
Sports
48 views
Sports
48 views

Super Falcons End 2017 As Africa’s Best Women Team

PH - December 18, 2017

Football governing body, FIFA, has released its end-of-year international ranking of Women’s National Teams, with the Super Falcons of Nigerian the top ranked team in Africa. In…

Former Senate President, David Mark Reveals Why He Was Invited By EFCC
Politics
51 views
Politics
51 views

Former Senate President, David Mark Reveals Why He Was Invited By EFCC

PH - December 18, 2017

Former Senate President, Senator David Mark has broken silence on his recent invitation to the headquarters of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, in Abuja. Reports…

Estate Agent Who Helped Diezani Buy Properties In UK ‘Arrested’
Politics
53 views
Politics
53 views

Estate Agent Who Helped Diezani Buy Properties In UK ‘Arrested’

PH - December 18, 2017

An estate agent who assisted ex-minister, Diezani Alison-Madueke, to buy properties in the UK has been arrested in Lagos. According to Premium times, Adeyemi Edun was detained…

TRENDING: Sultan of Sokoto Reacts to Hijab Ban
Politics
63 views
Politics
63 views

TRENDING: Sultan of Sokoto Reacts to Hijab Ban

PH - December 18, 2017

Sultan of Sokoto, Dr. Mohammad Sa’ad Abubakar has reacted to the raging controversy over Hijab. He decried the controversy, stating that Hijab simply meant decent dressing for…

Actor Yul Edochie Bags Chieftaincy Title (Photos)
Art, History and Culture
69 views
Art, History and Culture
69 views

Actor Yul Edochie Bags Chieftaincy Title (Photos)

PH - December 18, 2017

Nollywood actor turned Politician, Yul Edochie, has been conferred with a chieftaincy title just after he decamped from his political party to APGA (All Progressives Grand Alliance).  The actor…

Nigerian Lady Who Got Admitted to University at 26, Recounts Setbacks as She’s Set to Bag a PhD
Inspiring
61 views
Inspiring
61 views

Nigerian Lady Who Got Admitted to University at 26, Recounts Setbacks as She’s Set to Bag a PhD

PH - December 18, 2017

A Nigerian lady and Twitter user, Aduke George, took to the platform to recount past setbacks that led to her being admitted into the University at the age of 26.…

Ara Hosts Diplomatic Communities For Screening Of ‘Osunfunke’
Art, History and Culture
86 views
Art, History and Culture
86 views

Ara Hosts Diplomatic Communities For Screening Of ‘Osunfunke’

PH - December 17, 2017

Ara, better known as the queen of drums, screened her new film ‘Osunfunke’ for diplomatic communities, and corporate Nigeria. The premiere event held recently in Oshogbo and was well…

OAP Nancy Isime Shares Success Story, Says She’s Never Afraid To Try
Entertainment
86 views
Entertainment
86 views

OAP Nancy Isime Shares Success Story, Says She’s Never Afraid To Try

PH - December 17, 2017

Nigerian OAP and host of Hip TV show “Trending“, Nancy Isime is celebrating her birthday today and few hours prior, she took time out to reflect on her life and journey…

‘Why I Killed For Politicians’ – Confession of 25-Year-Old Ex-cultist (Photo)
Shocking
184 views
Shocking
184 views

‘Why I Killed For Politicians’ – Confession of 25-Year-Old Ex-cultist (Photo)

PH - December 17, 2017

He used to be Nigerian politicians’ Man Friday, the ultimate Mr. Fixer in our murky world of politics. He used to kill and maim for them, at…

Photos: Desmond Elliot Shows Up At Constituency As Santa Claus To Share Gifts
Entertainment
97 views
Entertainment
97 views

Photos: Desmond Elliot Shows Up At Constituency As Santa Claus To Share Gifts

PH - December 17, 2017

We are already in the season of sharing and Nollywood actor turned Politician, Desmond Elliot is already putting smiles on faces of people of his constituency. The actor turned up…

How Alleged Killer Wife Maryam’s Mum, Brother, Househelp Tried To Hide Evidence – Police
Shocking
144 views
Shocking
144 views

How Alleged Killer Wife Maryam’s Mum, Brother, Househelp Tried To Hide Evidence – Police

PH - December 17, 2017

The Nigerian Police Force, yesterday, alleged before an Abuja High Court at Jabi that family members of Maryam Sanda, wife of murdered son of erstwhile Chairman of…

Agriculture: Ogun State Government To Start Sale Of Mass Ofada Rice (Photos)
Agriculture and Farming
88 views
Agriculture and Farming
88 views

Agriculture: Ogun State Government To Start Sale Of Mass Ofada Rice (Photos)

MT - December 17, 2017

The Ogun State Government mass produced Ofada rice, is to be ready for sale to the public this Christmas season in all the Local Government and Local…

2019 Election: Fr. Mbaka Refutes Claims ‘God Has Not Revealed Anything About Atiku’
Politics
90 views
Politics
90 views

2019 Election: Fr. Mbaka Refutes Claims ‘God Has Not Revealed Anything About Atiku’

MT - December 17, 2017

The Spiritual Director, Adoration Ministry, Enugu Nigeria, Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka has disowned media reports, which quoted him as saying that former Vice President, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar…

Loading...