May 31, 2016
4 Things You Should Never Do After A Break-up to Save Your Life
1. Dating too soon.
Don’t wait forever but also don’t jump back in to the dating pool as soon as the papers are signed, or the last words have been spoken. No matter what the circumstances of your past relationship are, everyone needs time to detach herself/himself emotionally and physically, reassess your priorities and understand what you want from a future partner. In an ‘ideal’ situation, you should hold off seeing someone new until you have fully adjusted to the separation and is genuinely content with being single.
2. Being exclusive too soon.
Especially when your previous relationship was long-term, it’s important not to rush into anything serious too quickly. While you should not feel the need to date multiple partners, keeping your options open can actually be a good thing. Until exclusivity arises in a relationship, cast your net wide.
3. Waiting too long to start dating again
After a relationship ends or a divorce, it is very easy to get too comfortable with being alone, so that when you try to re-enter the dating world, it is extra complex. You might be scared of opening up to someone new, and investing in a new relationship, which is understandable. But once you’ve taken the time to heal, you might want to try getting your feet wet again. Remember that the longer you wait, the more difficult it becomes. So start small, e.g. online dating where you can set the pace, explore your options and find the right person for you.
4. Introducing kids too soon.
Whoever you are dating absolutely has the right to know about your children; it is only fair that they do. As a single parent, you also want to know that a prospective partner can get along with your children, but making the introduction too early can be risky. It is not only you who can be hurt if the relationship ends, but the children as well. Err on the side of caution because once introductions are made, expectations of commitment are raised!