1. Focus On yourself
Remember when in a relationship, it’s crucial to spend some time alone and focus on yourself. Rather than obsessing your partner over every move, take time to do something you enjoy doing. Having your own life outside of your relationship is vital for keeping things from getting too controlling – and it’s healthy for you guys!
2. Mind Your Manners
Demanding something from your boyfriend is indeed a form of being too controlling. It makes it seem like you don’t have any respect for him and comes across as you telling him what to do rather than you asking for something politely. Remember the old school rules: always say “please” when asking for something, say “thank you” when he does something nice, and return favors
3. Make Suggestions Instead Of Being Bossy
Sometimes we think our partner is destined for greater things because we see a lot of potential in them, so we try to help them do certain things. It’s great to try to help your partner grow and improve in life, but there’s a fine line between being helpful and being bossy and controlling. Telling your partner what to do when to do it is not helping. You want to be supportive, not demanding. Give advice, make suggestions, and be gentle. If they choose not to follow your advice and do what they want, you have to accept that. It’s their life and their choices!
4. Communicate When You Feel jealous
Everyone gets jealous, and that’s okay. what’s not okay is acting controlling because of that jealousy. If you’re freaking out about something your partner is doing, talk to them about it or confront them. Don’t get weird and start trying to control their every move. Trust is a huge part of a relationship and you have to learn how to communicate instead of acting out.
5. Keep In Mind You Can’t Change A Person
Everyone has their quirks and their flaws. As much as you think you might be able to change a person, you really can’t. Trying to force someone into doing the things you want them to do isn’t right or fair. You can’t mold anyone into who you want them to be, so don’t try. Remember that everyone is their own person and you need to respect that.