A man acts differently when he is in love with his wife. Everything changes: what he thinks about, how he spends his time and what he says. His thoughts, actions, desires and words center around building up the woman he loves.
A husband like this never says the following eight things to his wife. If he does, then he doesn’t truly love his girl.
1. “You need to change.”
It’s normal for both women and men to want to be their best selves for their partners. But it is grotesquely wrong to think a woman has to transform herself into a different person to please her husband. This goes against everything a marriage is.
If a man can’t love his wife for whom she is, then he’ll never be satisfied with her when and if she does change.
2. “You just don’t get me anymore.”
A husband who says this is far from feeling true love for his wife. Instead, he feels disconnected from her. If he did love her, then he would try to better explain his feelings instead of just assume she doesn’t care or understand.
3. “You would be more attractive if you … “
Women don’t exist to please men, and no man who truly loves his wife would ever say something like this to her. Even if his intentions are good, telling a woman to do her hair like this, wear this outfit, lose this much weight and so on destroys her soul and crushes her self-esteem like nothing else.
Sure, a good husband can respectfully give his honest opinion when his wife asks what he thinks about her appearance. But he should never attack her physicality or objectify her.
4.“You aren’t enough for me. I deserve better.”
No woman will ever be good enough for the husband who says this. And to any wife who hears this toxic phrase leave her husband’s lips, YOU DESERVE BETTER.
A man who says this isn’t in love and has no concept whatsoever of what love is. True love isn’t always looking for the next best thing; it’s loving the person you chose to be with and helping them reach their fullest potential.
5. “Why can’t you be more like her?”
Any husband who says this has clearly fallen out of love. This hurtful question shows he is paying more attention to other women than he is his wife.
And it only gets worse. Not only is he paying more attention to other women, but he’s also fantasizing about them to some degree. He does this by wishing his wife would emulate certain qualities he finds appealing in other women.
6. “You’re overreacting.”
The twin and equally hurtful sister of this comment is, “You’re being overly sensitive.”
If a man truly loves his wife, then what’s a big deal to her will be a big deal to him. He won’t criticize, diminish or brush off the way she feels or reacts to something just because he feels differently about it.
7. “You’re holding me back.”
This is a poisonous phrase a man truly in love would never say to his wife. If he loves her, then he would never imagine going forward in life without her.
He would also recognize how she helps him be better and how only he holds himself back by choosing to not love her.
8. “I just can’t deal with all of this right now.”
No relationship is perfect, but a man who refuses to deal with the struggles of marriage (no matter how big or small they may be) isn’t fully committed.
Husbands who use this phrase are really implying that they’re looking for an escape – an easier way out – because they aren’t willing to fight and sacrifice for the woman who they supposedly love.