Bedroom Routines That Bring Couples Closer
1. Put all your electronics away.
Not only do our devices’ endless notifications disturb our REM sleep, they also offer an imitation of connection.
Bedtime is an opportunity for real connection with the person right next to you—you know, the person you fell madly in love with and whom you’ve chosen to be your partner? Put your dang phone down … seriously. Make your bedroom a sanctuary, free from the noise of life, and watch your connection improve almost immediately.
2. Go to bed at the same time.
When our bedtime schedules don’t match, it’s often a matter of choice—like when someone stays up late to watch TV or work, while the other disappears into the dark recesses of the house.
Building a sense of connection requires being in the same place at the same time (ermm… duh). So make the choice to head to the bed together, maybe even hold hands as you go. Do this every single night, without fail. After all, retiring to the bedroom together means you’ll hit the sheets together.
And while you curl up…
3. Foreplay … before you enter the bedroom.
Part of what makes great s*x is the lead-up to the actual act.
But if you limit foreplay to the moments just before, it can start to feel like the same run-of-the-mill actions and activities. Next thing you know, you’re caught in a cycle of, “I’ll do this, you’ll do that, then we’ll sleep.”
Instead, start the day with a note on the mirror or an alluring text in the middle of the day for no reason, or maybe take out the trash before being asked (hey, you never know!). The point is to make your inner desire show outwardly, so they know that they are desired.
Commit to showing your love this way every single day, so that your partner is reminded as you head off to bed together that you believe they are special.
After all, one of the biggest turn-ons is being wanted … badly.
4. Explore new ways to touch.
The best foreplay happens when you give just for the same of giving … and not just to receive something in return.
A long, slow massage can be the perfect way truly relax your partner, but it is also so much more than that. A massage can also help build anticipation, connecting you through touch to help grow the intimacy and trust between you. Not just once a week, but every night, as part of your bedtime routine.
It takes just a little touch to create sparks, and you’ll need a massage crème to make it smooth and sensual. The best: K-Y Touch 2 in 1 Massage Creme and Pleasure Gel. It’s not your normal massage crème. It’s touch-activated, and creates a warming/tingling feeling—which is magnified the more you touch each other. It’s a win-win with its 2-in-1 functionality, since it can also be used as a lubricant, should things turn intimate after the massage.
5. Kiss goodnight. Every night.
Above all, close out your day with a combination of physical and emotional intimacy. Some people don’t like to sleep close together—maybe they like their space, or they get too hot—but a kiss goodnight is one of the simplest ways to connect at the end of the day.
Unfortunately, it’s also one of the activities that disappears the fastest when relationships shift from passionate to compassionate love.
So kiss them—really kiss them, and re-ignite your connection.
Deepening your connection with a fun, relaxing, and maybe even sexy bedtime routine can do wonders to revitalize a relationship.