Men often complain about not understanding women.
We always hear, “men are from Mars and women are from Venus”. But somehow, we are both stuck on earth. So, learning to understand each other is the key to healthy, happier and longer lasting relationships.
Understanding women is not rocket science. It is easy once you learn the language she speaks. Although she speaks English, her meaning may be hard to get. Here are some things you must know about your woman:
1. Indirect communication
Women are the inventors of indirect talk. For example, a woman will never come out and say, “please, do the dishes. I’m tired”. She will probably say something along the lines of:
I’m so tired. And the kitchen sink is so dirty.
She basically means you should help out with the dishes. Learn to decipher all the indirect talk and your relationship will be happier.
2. PMS is real
Men often think PMS is an emotional reaction. Or it’s all in a woman’s head. PMS is real, fellas! Ever been in situations where your boo goes from smiling, happy and goofy to sad and teary in moments? That is PMS. A lot is often going on in a woman’s body during the month, so be more understanding.
3. Women adore compliments
How can your bae make a new hair and it takes you a whole day to notice? Dude?! Pay more attention and compliment your woman. Sincere compliments show you appreciate her and notice the small things.
4. Romantic gestures
Romantic gestures are uber important. Not all the time she cooks, sometimes make her that one dish you can cook and serve her breakfast in bed. Other times, surprise her with gifts or things important to her. You can volunteer at her favourite charity. Get your romantic gesture powers up!
5. Sometimes, just listen
You know how you often assume a woman always wants you to fix things? Guys, sometimes we don’t want Bob the fixer. We just want you to listen and make sincere soothing noises. It’s that simple.
6. PDA is important
We are not your sisters. A little hand holding or goodbye kisses never hurt anyone. My Naija brothers need to learn to engage in PDA (public displays of affection). You will still be a man afterward. And best of all, you keep your woman happy.
7. Bring your A game
You have to be a man worthy of respect. Bring your A game in all areas of life. Women know you’re not perfect. We expect you to get as close as possible.