Stop being a doormat.
You’re a great person. Trouble is, you don’t realize it. You’re too busy undermining your own worth that you’re not questioning how others treat you. In your eyes, people treat you badly because a) you think you deserve it, or b) you think you keep having “bad luck.”
The reality is, you’ve got no self-respect and therefore, you keep attracting some pretty undesirable people in your life. Here are seven signs you’ve got no self-respect and it’s seriously hurting your life.
1. You’re the “doormat friend.”
If you’re always the one that people ask things for without giving back anything in return, you’re what they call a “doormat.” Do people get away with murder when it comes to you? Are you frequently left picking up other people’s messes? Do people just expect that “you’ll do it”?
If you answered yes, you’ve got no self-respect and are letting people walk all over you.
2. You lose yourself over a relationship.
Do you date men and then in the process, completely forget who and what you are? Do your values go totally by the wayside with the new guy, and do you find yourself doing things you wouldn’t normally do? Are your friends commenting on how much you’ve changed and they aren’t saying it in a glowing manner?
You’ve forgotten who you are and have lost your identity, because you have no self-respect and boundaries in order to stay true to who you are. It’s sad.
3. You act like an attention whore.
It’s not unusual for you to post a half-unclad, or totally unclad or provocative social media selfies. Not because it’s artistic. Not because you want to share a day or night you looked pretty. Not because you’re proud you lost the baby weight or are about to compete in a bikini or weightlifting competition. Not because you’re a model.
It’s because you’re dying for validation that your low self-esteem cannot provide. Instead, you sink to becoming an image or symbol in order to gain attention, which isn’t the same as love. You lack self-respect and self-love.
4. You indulge your bad habits in excess.
You’re drinking, drugging, self-harming, and the list rolls on. You’re punishing yourself and your body. You’re down with a sickness that can kill you. You don’t love yourself, much less care for yourself. You have zero self-respect for yourself and your life. It’s scary and sad.
5. You go out of your way for people who don’t do sh*t for you.
You will move every single mountain for someone who wouldn’t look you straight in the eye for one second if he or she had the chance. You will make excuse after excuse for someone who would throw you under the bus in a heartbeat.
You go out of your way for someone who would do nothing for you. That’s a big sign of a complete and utter lack of self-respect.
6. You tolerate abuse.
You tolerate abusive partners and nasty people because you somehow have bought into the one or two times they were nice to you. Instead of focusing on all that they do each day, you keep remembering the one or two times they treated you nicely.
The writing is on the wall, though, and it’s clear that these “partners” aren’t kind to you. It’s painful for your loved ones to see that you have such little self-respect for yourself.
7. You have desperate, casual s*x.
A woman with no self-respect has s*x in a desperate attempt to make someone else love her, even though that won’t do the trick. A woman with no self-respect will have s*x with someone because she’s forgotten how to say no, forgotten she has the right to say no, and doesn’t have the strength to fight it.