In relationships, we all want to feel like we are loved more than we love but sometimes it is hard not to feel like we are giving more than we are getting.
Relationships are all about comfort, trust, and feeling like you are putting in as much as you are getting back. And if you feel otherwise, then it is time to regain the power in your relationship.
1. Don’t Play Games
If you want to be the adult in a relationship then you shouldn’t resort to “not texting him,” “playing hard to get,”etc. These are all child’s games and they may work for a while but why would you want to be with someone who plays those games.
2. Exude Confidence
The most important thing in any relationship is confidence. If you have confidence and believe in yourself, then there is no need to play games. If the person isn’t really into you then you should be confident and strong enough to walk away.
3. Set Clear Boundaries
This is about what you are willing to accept, and not accept especially in areas of tension. Make clear answers with supportive statements that validate your decision.
4. Be Unavailable
Men usually want what they can’t have, but I don’t mean you should play games. I simply mean you shouldn’t be always available for him because you are busy with your own life. Remember, a man is a fabulous accessory in life, not someone who should complete you.
5. Be Independent
If you want a guy to want and respect you, be your own person. Show that you are comfortable doing your own things and in your own skin.
6. Speak Up
Don’t be a doormat! If your partner upsets you or you feel like you are being taken advantage of, it is imperative that you let your feelings known.
7. Give each other space
A guy would want you a lot more if you give him space and vice versa. If you spend too much time with someone all the time, it is a quick way to lose that person.
8. Use Assertive Language
Which doesn’t mean aggressive or defensive. I want, I need, I desire, I can’t, I won’t…those are good ways to start.
Then be very clear about your demands and expectations. Make them realistic and fair but expect to be treated fairly in return.