Did you just get a new job at this pretty cool urban place and you want to get along fine with everyone but you also don’t want to seem like an a$$ kisser so people won’t disrespect you. Well, it’s actually quite easy if you follow the list below:
1. TOUCH (IN THE RIGHT PLACES)
Some urban offices have become touchless, thanks to occasional forms of inappropriate touching getting in the way of actual business. But appropriate touching, between you and the people you’re comfortable with, is a way to break down the physical and emotional distance between the two of you. Shake hands whenever you greet someone, and touch shoulders to show empathy, give support, or solidify a point you’re making. Just don’t overdo it, or you might look like a crazy person.
You don’t have to become a predictable robot, but adding consistency to your behaviors and routines is important. People need to know what they can expect from you, or else they might immediately write you off. Using some of the above strategies as examples, you can’t be positive one day and negative the next–you have to be positive most of the time. You can’t have a meaningful conversation one day and then revert to small talk the next–you have to be consistent.
3. UPGRADE FROM SMALL TALK
Small talk is office anthem, and it’s unfortunate that it passes for real conversation. You might be perfectly content talking about the weather or your favourite football team, but those types of conversations won’t win you much long-term favor. If you want to make a great impression and earn more ‘likeability’, you have to move past it. Ask genuine, down-to-earth questions of your coworkers when you have time to chat. Ask about their families, their hobbies, and their passions. You’ll be surprised how much you never knew about the people you work with, and they’ll like you better for having learned it.
It’s unfortunate but true that most offices in the Nigeria have highly competitive environments. Workers are competing for promotions, for recognition, and sometimes just for pride. But the moment you come to be seen as a competitor, people will shy away from you and may even come to resent you. Don’t create any unnecessary competitions, on a small scale or large scale. For example, don’t go out of your way to claim credit for a group project, don’t sabotage anyone, and don’t try to squeeze someone’s hand extra hard when you shake their hand.
5. BE VERY HELPFUL
Humans are social creatures, and we get along by helping one another. We’re evolutionarily programmed to recognize and feel better about the people who help us as well as the people we help. As a result, the more you help other people–and the more they help you–the stronger your bonds will become and the more likeable you’ll be. Go out of your way to help people who need your assistance, and never be afraid to ask for a favor of your own.
Pessimists don’t win many friends. Bringing up your negative feelings about a situation, even though the situation itself might be unfavorable, is a sure way to alienate your coworkers and bring the entire mood of the establishment down. Instead, always look for the bright side. Make comments about the positive elements of each situation you encounter, and walk around with a smile on your face. This simple change will help people associate you with positive thoughts and positive emotions, and you’ll be more well-liked as a result.