A lot of people complain about habitual mundane chatting from boring toasters, and we have seen lovers engage in chats that never go beyond, ‘have you eaten?’, ‘what are you wearing now?’ etc. This article intends to help you fashion out new ideas to get chatty about, which won’t bore the other person.
Please note that you don’t have to do everything listed in this article. You can go with the ones that suits your personality type and also let yourself flow into the other person’s preferences.
Let’s get into it.
1. LATCH ON TO THAT COMPLIMENT!
Everyone loves a good compliment. It shows you are paying attention, and can see into details. So when you are looking for topics to discuss with your partner, think about a compliment, and create a discussion around it. For example, you tell your spouse how you much you love the attire she’s wearing on a picture you just saw on Social Media, they grin for a bit, and you begin to talk about her fashion sense. She’s very likely to want to talk about it with you, and let you in into that thing you have complimented, and which she’s very impressed about. Gradually, you would be knowing a lot more about her, and she’s definitely going to warm up to you more.
2. SHOW SOME INTEREST IN THEIR INTEREST!
I hope you know that the prerogative of keeping a chat on does not solely reside with the guy? As a lady, you can also think of a topic you can discuss with your partner, start up a chat, and keep it going. It takes two to communicate really, so if you are setting a conversation off, you will need the interest of the other person; it won’t matter if it is the guy or lady. Now to the main thing – you need to get into the interests of your spouse. Is he into football? Try to ask him questions about his passion for football, you can try to be a fan of his favourite club too. Is she a lover of Telemundo? Ask her to tell you the plot of her favourite series. You will be surprised how well you bond when you dig into each other’s interests.
3. GET INTO HISTORY.
With history, you can never go wrong. It helps you understand what’s been there, settles you into the present, and invites you into what is possible in the future. Either you are creatively interested in topics about her background/history, or you are sharing yours with her. Most people love to share, so give them the opportunity. Next time you are thinking of topics to discuss with your partner, think about their background and their history.
4. SHARE IN EACH OTHERS’ VICTORIES AND CHALLENGES.
When you get really personal with people, you will be crawling your way into their hearts without them realizing it. You can easily inspire them and make them feel better about themselves. Talking about things you have accomplished, goals you are set to accomplish, fears you have, or challenges you envisage will open you to various ideas you never saw coming. And it will be reciprocal without you forcing it.
5. PLAY GAMES.
Having fun is cool. Not every time deep stuff. Create interesting short games between you two. Try fun stuff like first person to make the other person laugh, a word game, memory game, etc. These things create awesome memories, and make you look forward to the next chat.
Regardless of who you are, we all love to get into some level of gossip, every once in a while. Gossip doesn’t always mean you are speaking badly about someone or something. It’s just a way to share information (you have) and opinion about someone or something. So, getting into some little gossip about trending topics in the news, on social media, workplace, or in the neighbourhood is a cool way to bond with your partner. Each gossip lets you into their thought process, their sense of judgement, analytical reasoning, and love/passion for people or things.