Do not expect an instant bounce back in your relationship. It takes time and there are a lot of ups and downs. Try to focus on the ups, and work through the downs with patience. Pushing or expecting things to be better too soon can be very damaging. Give the other person time to work through the situation also.
2. Stop focusing on the negative and look for the positive
This goes for both you and the person you are struggling with. When you focus on the negative aspects of others, it is easy to hold anger toward them. But remember, none of us is perfect; we all make mistakes. It can be harder to focus on the good traits of a person, but it is well worth the effort.
3. Don’t expect them to change
It is never good to start thinking something along the lines of, “Our relationship would be much better if they would just … ” Expecting someone else to change is like expecting the weather to be exactly how you think it should be every day. We can not control some things, and need to accept that.
4. Set boundaries for yourself
It is crucial that you realize that you can only change yourself, but you are worth protecting. Set boundaries for yourself. Walk away for a while to cool off and collect your thoughts. Distance yourself emotionally when it becomes too much, and slowly work back into the relationship when you can handle it.
Serving the person you are having issues with is ideal, but any kind of service will make you feel better. We love those we serve. Sometimes service has to come in order for love to return.
6. Ask for help
Please don’t be afraid to ask for help. Pray and/or talk to a counselor. If you are struggling, a third party who is not involved with the situation can really be of help. They can see things you might have missed because your emotions were clouded with hurt.
It is so important to forgive ourselves and others. When you do, you release a burden off of your shoulders. As the book by M. L. Stedman, “The Light Between Oceans” says, “You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day.”